So this year I am starting her in grade 9 with an eclectic mix of more "straightfoward" things, including the EE science and composer study from Rev to Rev. She is not and never has been a fan of reading, being a slow reader, and the number of books to switch back and forth from day to day in HOD overwhelms her. Going half speed makes her feel like she will never finish a guide. Having me read to her sometimes was ok, but she felt bad for needing that when her younger sister reads so quickly and finishes her daily work without much help. I guess I have to take the good news and rejoice that she is no longer being rebellious, but is rather cooperative and motivated. We have sat down together to make a high school plan, reviewing HOD and many other curricula, looking at samples, and have come up with a plan she is excited about. That is something to rejoice about 
As for my youngest dd, it is my hope that we will be financially able to keep her in HOD, since doing so means I would never come to a point of being able to repeat her older sister's curriculum, but instead for every year I would be buying separate curricula for each girl. With our oldest dd Ariel still living with us (she graduated high school but is only 17, and wants to wait until age 18 before going away to college) and baby number 5 soon arriving, finances are a major consideration.
I hope to be part of the HOD family for many years to come, with Tamara, and with baby-God has always provided through the difficult times, and I don't expect Him to change now
