ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
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ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
OK, so I don't mean to come to the board always switching from being TOTALLY excited about HOD ( although I am) and then sounding draggy in my next post.
However, I have so discouraged myself as to how our first year of homeschooling goes.
I think I'm really trying to determine where DD5.5 stands academically. She's incredibly bright, but very lazy. DH and I recently instituted Accountable Kids, and we haven't added chores at all. In fact, we've just chosen reminder cards to match what She's been doing. All of a sudden, she's stressed out and overworked, though we slowed to half-speed to make up for extra focus on chores.
Wow, she's bright, but I guess I feel like a slacker. We do school 4 days a week, and she reads voraciously during her play time. No twaddle, either. I guess this is just our adjustment period? With DH leaving this year (for work) we won't do school a pt of days. I guess we really will squeeze 3 guides into 4 years!?
However, I have so discouraged myself as to how our first year of homeschooling goes.
I think I'm really trying to determine where DD5.5 stands academically. She's incredibly bright, but very lazy. DH and I recently instituted Accountable Kids, and we haven't added chores at all. In fact, we've just chosen reminder cards to match what She's been doing. All of a sudden, she's stressed out and overworked, though we slowed to half-speed to make up for extra focus on chores.
Wow, she's bright, but I guess I feel like a slacker. We do school 4 days a week, and she reads voraciously during her play time. No twaddle, either. I guess this is just our adjustment period? With DH leaving this year (for work) we won't do school a pt of days. I guess we really will squeeze 3 guides into 4 years!?
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
Any encouragement? I was hoping someone had dealt with a bright child who is not motivated, or would just want to say they've been here? I've tried really hard not to push her, and I think she can handle more than 1/2 day, but we both regret it when I have her do that? Namely, one if the indoor water Parks has Homeschool Monday tomorrow. I don't know whether to take her or not. She is only 5, and CM didn't advocate formal school till 6. I don't know if I'll be rewarding sloth, or celebrating childhood if we go tomorrow.
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
I guess I'm just looking for encouragement. It is so stark how her abilities and motivation differ, and I don't know what to do about it. We have 240 more half-days at this rate before we begin Beyond. 

Heidi
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
Hi, Heidi!Heidi in AK wrote:I guess I'm just looking for encouragement. It is so stark how her abilities and motivation differ, and I don't know what to do about it. We have 240 more half-days at this rate before we begin Beyond.
I'm so sorry you're discouraged right now. It's easy to have times in our homeschooling journey when we're just not sure how to proceed. I've been there many times myself!

I'm not sure exactly what you should do as far as half-speed/full-speed with your precious daughter, but it does seem to me that focussing on character should be way more important than academic work right now. It's extremely hard to "do school" with a child who is not happily obedient! I have a daughter that is 5.5 also, and there are days when we really need to focus on character issues with her.
Have you read "Shepherding a Child's Heart" by Tedd Tripp? It's very helpful for helping parents focus on the heart issues that drive our children's behavior. Also, "Don't Make Me Count to Three" is excellent.
I hope this helps! Hugs to you!
Blessings,
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
Thanks, HeartMom! I have read Tedd Tripp's book, but not Ginger Plowman's, yet. It was recommended to me. I just don't know if she has a tolerance I try to run past in the name of trying to finish at a certain time, or if it's defiance. I just think she's being a kid, and I'm trying to figure out if I need to push her. I was thinking after my last post, so what if it takes us about a year to finish LHFHG and we don't finish Beyond till Valentine's Day or so? That'd be in the middle of her 1st grade year, and she'd only be 6.5 then. That's really not so bad, right?
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I agree with the recommendation of the pp - the Ted Tripp book is excellent (I haven't read the other). My advice, FWIW, is not to stress too much about how long it takes to get to Beyond - and continue with half speed for a while until you feel your daughter is ready to go full speed. As the pp suggests, focus on character for right now. Personally, I would take her to the homeschool day tomorrow if that's what you yourself would like to do, and give more immediate consequences when she is being uncooperative with school. On occasion both my daughters need to go stand in the corner for having a poor attitude in school. Also with my 5.5 year old I limit the more challenging subjects (reading, writing, and math) to 15 min or less per subject each day. Attention spans are short at this age. Just keep plugging away a little at a time! And (perhaps hardest of all for me) don't lose your cool no matter what!
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
You're right, Heidi! It wouldn't be a bad thing at all! I know she's really bright, but that doesn't necessarily mean she needs to do everything at breakneck speed.Heidi in AK wrote:Thanks, HeartMom! I have read Tedd Tripp's book, but not Ginger Plowman's, yet. It was recommended to me. I just don't know if she has a tolerance I try to run past in the name of trying to finish at a certain time, or if it's defiance. I just think she's being a kid, and I'm trying to figure out if I need to push her. I was thinking after my last post, so what if it takes us about a year to finish LHFHG and we don't finish Beyond till Valentine's Day or so? That'd be in the middle of her 1st grade year, and she'd only be 6.5 then. That's really not so bad, right?

When you ask about whether or not you need to push her, can you give me an example of what you're talking about?
Oh, Ginger Plowman's book is more practical that Tedd Tripp's. His lays the foundations and hers puts shoes to it, if you know what I mean.

Blessings,
Elisabeth
ds - 17
dd - 14
dd - 12
ds - 9
dd - 5 (Little Hearts for His Glory)
Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."
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dd - 14
dd - 12
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Hi.My first child was really bright.She taught herself to read and write at 3,she was reading Swallows and Amazons at 6-7 years.The problem is they are just little kids and allthough their academic age,the conversations they hold - well exceed their actual age .Emotionally they are not that age.
So your little one is doing LHFHG? Keep going. You wont be doing half days forever.Gradually she will learn to sit still and work through her school work.Your training her do that with LHFHG.Be consistent with school and gradually increase her chores and her school work to a full load.
So your little one is doing LHFHG? Keep going. You wont be doing half days forever.Gradually she will learn to sit still and work through her school work.Your training her do that with LHFHG.Be consistent with school and gradually increase her chores and her school work to a full load.
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Oh honey, I'll start with a big (((((hug)))))
I know where you're coming from.
Here's my experience with LHFHG. The first time I did the program, I combined my 5, 6, and 7 year old. They loved it. There were times when I thought it was over my 5 year olds head but I just let it go thinking she'd catch up. Her participation throughout the year was rather limited compared to her sisters. I THOUGHT about holding her back but in the end I continued to combine her with her siblings in Beyond just after she turned 6. She's always been on the youngest age range of the guides and she's always struggled a little bit. We've been doing HOD for over three years now. We're almost done with Bigger and this child still doesn't like certain types of assignments, like narration and answering science questions. She is quite capable but doesn't like to stretch herself. I"m still trying to figure out what to do for her.
Last year my fourth child started K. She wasn't ready for LHFHG when she was 5. No way. I decided to do things totally different with this kiddo. My theory was that her K year was just going to be relaxed. Now that I have older children, I've come to realize that school gets challenging soon enough. I wanted her to enjoy herself and have some fun. We did some workbooks and she had access to art materials and lots of building toys. It was very low key, but she always amazed me with her projects. She would do copywork, but it had to be something she selected. Again, I didn't want her to go into LHFHG having struggles like her older sister. I wanted her to be on top of the game. We started out the year learning to read and do phonics. It was rough going at first but we persevered. We added math... and now she's doing great. I have been testing the Little Hearts waters on and off throughout the year. Finally, about four weeks ago, it clicked. Now she's begging to do HOD. She begs to hear Ready Fox. She tries to negotiate for a second chapter all the time. It's so funny. I knew what I wanted school to be like in my home and this is it. I'm thrilled.
My advice is to love up your girl and be patient. Maybe take some time off and just have some fun -- after all, she's just 5. I think HOD is way harder than a lot of programs out there because it requires the child to THINK.
Hope this helps.

Here's my experience with LHFHG. The first time I did the program, I combined my 5, 6, and 7 year old. They loved it. There were times when I thought it was over my 5 year olds head but I just let it go thinking she'd catch up. Her participation throughout the year was rather limited compared to her sisters. I THOUGHT about holding her back but in the end I continued to combine her with her siblings in Beyond just after she turned 6. She's always been on the youngest age range of the guides and she's always struggled a little bit. We've been doing HOD for over three years now. We're almost done with Bigger and this child still doesn't like certain types of assignments, like narration and answering science questions. She is quite capable but doesn't like to stretch herself. I"m still trying to figure out what to do for her.
Last year my fourth child started K. She wasn't ready for LHFHG when she was 5. No way. I decided to do things totally different with this kiddo. My theory was that her K year was just going to be relaxed. Now that I have older children, I've come to realize that school gets challenging soon enough. I wanted her to enjoy herself and have some fun. We did some workbooks and she had access to art materials and lots of building toys. It was very low key, but she always amazed me with her projects. She would do copywork, but it had to be something she selected. Again, I didn't want her to go into LHFHG having struggles like her older sister. I wanted her to be on top of the game. We started out the year learning to read and do phonics. It was rough going at first but we persevered. We added math... and now she's doing great. I have been testing the Little Hearts waters on and off throughout the year. Finally, about four weeks ago, it clicked. Now she's begging to do HOD. She begs to hear Ready Fox. She tries to negotiate for a second chapter all the time. It's so funny. I knew what I wanted school to be like in my home and this is it. I'm thrilled.
My advice is to love up your girl and be patient. Maybe take some time off and just have some fun -- after all, she's just 5. I think HOD is way harder than a lot of programs out there because it requires the child to THINK.
Hope this helps.
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Sorry to hear you are struggling again, especially with her attitude. That can be the hardest, and sometimes so hard to know what to do!
My little girl is just turning 5 and we have had struggles with her in reading/phonics, sometimes I think I'm expecting too much of her and sometimes I think maybe she's just not ready for the focus it takes to do the work. She's quite capable, she has shown that time and time again, but as one other person said, there's something to be said for them having the emotional maturity as well to be expected to sit down and do the work.
I have two thoughts for you. One is, as the others said, right now it seems like there really is no major reason for you to need to push her through this. You have shared before how just the nature of your life is, and the involvement you have with others, and the fact that you want to take time off school when your DH is free, makes your school time inconsistent. So, isn't your daughter the same way? She may have days where she is ready and willing to do school work and she may have days where she is not. If you get resistance from her several days in a row, while I don't necessarily think you should close up the books and not expect anything else from her when she shows that resistance, maybe you can take a break. When she's not be defiant/resistant just say "I realize this school work has been hard and you haven't wanted to do it, maybe we'll put it away for a week or so." See if that seems to help. She probably really likes it, but again, who can explain the feelings of a child in this situation? The child certainly can't.
My other thought though, is that routine is really important. In For a Child's Sake (one of the Charlotte Mason books that many people read these days, wish I could remember the author) there is a chapter or a section where they talk about the fact that if something is routine, and the child is used to doing it every day, they don't fight because that is just what they do. Which is why regular naptimes, bedtimes, and things like that can be so helpful to a parent, and a child. A known and familiar routine is something that gives a child's life order and helps them know what to expect. So, right now she might be feeling that school is just something you do when you're not doing something more fun, like playing with Daddy, having playdates, or going to something else. That would make her more resistant I would think. So, this thought might make you go the other way and think that you need to do school every day no matter what. I think I would just suggest that you, along with working on discipline and obedience with her, make a routine that is kind of school-like but easy. Try to do something every day. I have two school schedules, one for when we are home all day (which includes chores and then games for the kids if they help me with chores) and one where we are gone from about 11:30-2 PM - we finish school quickly before we go out and then we pack a lunch or something and have playdates, go to the library, whatever. Anyway, this way I don't feel tied down to having to stay home all day when we are doing school, but school is something we do almost every day of the week (not on Thursdays because we are also involved in a co-op).
I hope these thoughts are helpful and you find a direction to go in that will help your DD.
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My little girl is just turning 5 and we have had struggles with her in reading/phonics, sometimes I think I'm expecting too much of her and sometimes I think maybe she's just not ready for the focus it takes to do the work. She's quite capable, she has shown that time and time again, but as one other person said, there's something to be said for them having the emotional maturity as well to be expected to sit down and do the work.
I have two thoughts for you. One is, as the others said, right now it seems like there really is no major reason for you to need to push her through this. You have shared before how just the nature of your life is, and the involvement you have with others, and the fact that you want to take time off school when your DH is free, makes your school time inconsistent. So, isn't your daughter the same way? She may have days where she is ready and willing to do school work and she may have days where she is not. If you get resistance from her several days in a row, while I don't necessarily think you should close up the books and not expect anything else from her when she shows that resistance, maybe you can take a break. When she's not be defiant/resistant just say "I realize this school work has been hard and you haven't wanted to do it, maybe we'll put it away for a week or so." See if that seems to help. She probably really likes it, but again, who can explain the feelings of a child in this situation? The child certainly can't.
My other thought though, is that routine is really important. In For a Child's Sake (one of the Charlotte Mason books that many people read these days, wish I could remember the author) there is a chapter or a section where they talk about the fact that if something is routine, and the child is used to doing it every day, they don't fight because that is just what they do. Which is why regular naptimes, bedtimes, and things like that can be so helpful to a parent, and a child. A known and familiar routine is something that gives a child's life order and helps them know what to expect. So, right now she might be feeling that school is just something you do when you're not doing something more fun, like playing with Daddy, having playdates, or going to something else. That would make her more resistant I would think. So, this thought might make you go the other way and think that you need to do school every day no matter what. I think I would just suggest that you, along with working on discipline and obedience with her, make a routine that is kind of school-like but easy. Try to do something every day. I have two school schedules, one for when we are home all day (which includes chores and then games for the kids if they help me with chores) and one where we are gone from about 11:30-2 PM - we finish school quickly before we go out and then we pack a lunch or something and have playdates, go to the library, whatever. Anyway, this way I don't feel tied down to having to stay home all day when we are doing school, but school is something we do almost every day of the week (not on Thursdays because we are also involved in a co-op).
I hope these thoughts are helpful and you find a direction to go in that will help your DD.
Blessings!
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
In addition to what everyone else said...I had one of these
I have one of these children. I only have one, so it's not like I can even fix my damage from this one on the next one. God gave me once chance. Boy did I blow it.
My dd had zero interest in academics. Well....has zero interest in academics.
You name it, I bought it. I thought it was learning styles, I thought she was slow. Well, she's smart as a whip, but not nessarily academically. I think if she could, she'd be the professional play-er. I worked for my dh until she was about 5. I put her in day care (gasp) twice a week and it killed me. She was the kid in the back of the room not paying attention to the teacher, because wanted to do whatever. That made me laugh and it made me cry. She was also the one to sit on the teacher's lap the whole time during outside time. My ps K-teacher friend tried. Nope...she wanted to play. I tried to get her to try to read at 5. Nope. She didn't understand blending. She didn't WANT to do it. I thought she was slow. Up through part of Grade 2 we schooled as I could get it in. We may have been off for weeks or on for only one. Whenever. I bought every craft and I own a ton of books. She didn't want to read nor did she want to sit and listen and she didn't want to do a craft. She wanted to play. I thought it was me, I thought it was lack of discipline, I thought she was lazy, I thought there must be something wrong.
Wrong on all counts.
Then she decided that she liked reading. She still hates school, but thanks to one of Carrie's posts, I told her that hating anything school wasn't allowed.. She loves to read. She understands it all in HER OWN TIME. I cringe at the thought of what I tried to make her do when she wasn't ready. And she wasn't ready. She's not stupid, she's not lazy. She wasn't ready. By end of Grade 2 to Grade 3 (besides her lack of logic in math
) we are on track. After I realized that she just wasn't ready, the frustration completely left and everything became easier to teach and to learn. What I tried to get her to do when she was 5 & 6 and 7, all came in 6 months, up to level. In that time I taught her to focus in increments. Focus is her biggest issue. She is a mover and a shaker and a socialable sue. No time for this "school stuff".
She still hates school, although she secretly loves to read and really loves the books in HOD. She'll read the storytime books in one sitting. She's read Lord of the Rings at least 4 times since summer. She hates all the academic portions of school, although she likes to write (on her own). She comprehends things I don't.
She is 11, 12 in June and in 5th grade now. This is why she is in 5th grade, although she'd either be really old or really young for her grade...I chose the latter and decided not to worry about it. (actually I secretly do, but I know I should NOT.)
Your K-er is not a sloth, she's just not ready. Don't do like I did and stress about it. Gosh, the things I regret. Do little things here and there. And someday, she just may surprise you.

My dd had zero interest in academics. Well....has zero interest in academics.

Wrong on all counts.
Then she decided that she liked reading. She still hates school, but thanks to one of Carrie's posts, I told her that hating anything school wasn't allowed.. She loves to read. She understands it all in HER OWN TIME. I cringe at the thought of what I tried to make her do when she wasn't ready. And she wasn't ready. She's not stupid, she's not lazy. She wasn't ready. By end of Grade 2 to Grade 3 (besides her lack of logic in math

She still hates school, although she secretly loves to read and really loves the books in HOD. She'll read the storytime books in one sitting. She's read Lord of the Rings at least 4 times since summer. She hates all the academic portions of school, although she likes to write (on her own). She comprehends things I don't.

Your K-er is not a sloth, she's just not ready. Don't do like I did and stress about it. Gosh, the things I regret. Do little things here and there. And someday, she just may surprise you.
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
Hi Heidi ((hugs))
I agree with the sage advice you've received that a lot of it is your dd's age. She's smart as a whip, to be sure.
Just because she's capable of doing it doesn't mean she's mature enough for the challenges of curriculum that is designed for older children. They change so much, so quickly at this age. I'd continue with the half speed LHFHG (though with reading that matches her ability) if that's what she seems to be able to handle, and go back to full speed if she seems ready for more. I wouldn't add on extra stuff unless it is read-alouds for couch snuggle time. Since you don't want her to always be at the young end of the guide, don't worry about going slower than she can handle academically. Things will change, as they always do, and you can pick up the speed incrementally when she's ready. If Accountable Kids is making her balk at her chores, maybe she just doesn't need it and it's stressing her out. She was doing her chores before, right?
I think if you choose half speed (or three days per week, or whatever you decide on) then just be consistent so dd knows what to expect each day. The flow of a routine can be helpful, as long as it is consistent with her abilities and maturity.
I agree with the sage advice you've received that a lot of it is your dd's age. She's smart as a whip, to be sure.

I think if you choose half speed (or three days per week, or whatever you decide on) then just be consistent so dd knows what to expect each day. The flow of a routine can be helpful, as long as it is consistent with her abilities and maturity.

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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
Thanks, everyone. Shana was totally excited when I pulled her Bible out. I think trying Beyond burned us a bit (we had done the RH side for about a week). She's great with half-speed (RH one day, LH the next), so we'll just continue with what's working, and hope that we stay on track to finish Bigger by sometime right at the start of 4th grade.
I'm sure we can do that. We took her to the waterpark today, and she had a blast. She fell asleep on the carpet at 7:15 tonight.
My goal is to get to bed soon enough to enjoy peace and quiet tonight!!!
I don't think it's defiance; I think you gracious ladies hit on it. I have been feeling it for a while; she's 5, a young K. She barely meets the technical cutoff for kindergarten, so she's young. Aside from her abilities, I could very well have held off from her formally starting school this year. So, I'll let her turn over rocks, play dolls, read books, and use her imagination. She's YOUNG.
We'll still do half-speed 4 days a week for now. I do feel much better; we had a good day of school Saturday. No school today.
I'm sure we can do that. We took her to the waterpark today, and she had a blast. She fell asleep on the carpet at 7:15 tonight.

I don't think it's defiance; I think you gracious ladies hit on it. I have been feeling it for a while; she's 5, a young K. She barely meets the technical cutoff for kindergarten, so she's young. Aside from her abilities, I could very well have held off from her formally starting school this year. So, I'll let her turn over rocks, play dolls, read books, and use her imagination. She's YOUNG.
We'll still do half-speed 4 days a week for now. I do feel much better; we had a good day of school Saturday. No school today.

Heidi
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loving teaching my rewards!!!
Girlie (dd7) - Beyond, 4 days/week
Boy-o (ds4), LHTH, along for the ride!!! (all boy, whatever he can get his hands on, FULL OF ENERGY!)
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
I think, once again, this comes down to a heart issue, and one on the case of the mama. A friend had to deal with my daughter today at Bible study, and she stated that my DD was belligerent and disrespectful to her. I don't stand for it, and I don't want to get into discussion, but I was very happy my friend came to me with the issue at hand.
We did a FULL day of HOD today, anticipating a busy weekend. I have the tracking sheet on my fridge, and have marked where I want to be at each month. We have goals we have to achieve, and they are not too pushy. They're based on getting 10 lessons, or two units, done in a month. We don't do school every day because of other commitments (though that is set to CHANGE!) and I don't push DD. Expectation now is that we do get 4 days/week though. I realized it doesn't take long, and I have let DD rule the roost. That is NO MORE. Since a friend was there, and she happens to be my mentor as of last Saturday, and she has older kids, we have our first topic.
I really need to buck up and not let DD run the show. Thanks, Lord, for showing me what to work on.
We did a FULL day of HOD today, anticipating a busy weekend. I have the tracking sheet on my fridge, and have marked where I want to be at each month. We have goals we have to achieve, and they are not too pushy. They're based on getting 10 lessons, or two units, done in a month. We don't do school every day because of other commitments (though that is set to CHANGE!) and I don't push DD. Expectation now is that we do get 4 days/week though. I realized it doesn't take long, and I have let DD rule the roost. That is NO MORE. Since a friend was there, and she happens to be my mentor as of last Saturday, and she has older kids, we have our first topic.

I really need to buck up and not let DD run the show. Thanks, Lord, for showing me what to work on.
Heidi
loving teaching my rewards!!!
Girlie (dd7) - Beyond, 4 days/week
Boy-o (ds4), LHTH, along for the ride!!! (all boy, whatever he can get his hands on, FULL OF ENERGY!)
Psalm 78:3-7
http://heidihovan.blogspot.com
loving teaching my rewards!!!
Girlie (dd7) - Beyond, 4 days/week
Boy-o (ds4), LHTH, along for the ride!!! (all boy, whatever he can get his hands on, FULL OF ENERGY!)
Psalm 78:3-7
http://heidihovan.blogspot.com
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Re: ugh - fits & starts with a Ker
Back on to check for your update. I will pray for you to find that right balance, making sure discipline is there when its needed to show your DD what's expected of her, and also the fun and enjoyment of childhood and discovery. Blessings on you!
Melissa
"The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases
His mercies never come to an end"
DD12 - Rev to Rev + DITHOR 6/7/8
DD10 - CTC + DITHOR 2/3
DD7 - Bigger + ERs
DS5 - LHFHG
DD2 - ABC123
2 babies in heaven
"The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases
His mercies never come to an end"
DD12 - Rev to Rev + DITHOR 6/7/8
DD10 - CTC + DITHOR 2/3
DD7 - Bigger + ERs
DS5 - LHFHG
DD2 - ABC123
2 babies in heaven