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How To Handle Heavy/Violent Content With A Young One
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Re: How To Handle Heavy/Violent Content With A Young One
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Re: How To Handle Heavy/Violent Content With A Young One
Thank you all, I am nearly speechless. Actually I am in tears as I read your responses because somehow you all managed to cut to the heart of the matter. I am so thankful for that.
I am came here trying to figure out how to make a program work, and I ended up learning so much more than that. Somehow the focus has shifted from worries over my daughter, then to worries and insecurities about myself and abilities, and ultimately a very clear focus on Him. I totally believe that He is working right here, right now!
What I have ultimately, and so thankfully, taken away from this is that if I put it in His so very capable hands I can rest in the trust that He will take care of it all. I am so willing to let go of all the fear and confusion (I am soooo good at causing that!) and to let Him direct all of this.
Thank you again, each and everyone of you. Just know that I am sighing a wonderful breath of relief tonight. Thank you.
I am going to read through again because there really is so much more here than you all could even know.
Candice
I am came here trying to figure out how to make a program work, and I ended up learning so much more than that. Somehow the focus has shifted from worries over my daughter, then to worries and insecurities about myself and abilities, and ultimately a very clear focus on Him. I totally believe that He is working right here, right now!
What I have ultimately, and so thankfully, taken away from this is that if I put it in His so very capable hands I can rest in the trust that He will take care of it all. I am so willing to let go of all the fear and confusion (I am soooo good at causing that!) and to let Him direct all of this.
Thank you again, each and everyone of you. Just know that I am sighing a wonderful breath of relief tonight. Thank you.
I am going to read through again because there really is so much more here than you all could even know.
Candice
Re: How To Handle Heavy/Violent Content With A Young One
My almost 9yo son is also very sensitive particularly to the word "blood" in Bible stories and otherwise. As a matter of fact he coined the word "blah-blah" to replace it. This has made for some quite humorous family devotion times. He was also sensitive in other ways, too. On Sunday, we were listening to Your Story Hour, and he got upset because he heard some dramatic music and was sure that something violent was coming. The blood thing concerned me because that happens to be everything that our faith is built on. I mean, its a thread through the whole Bible. However, we always have respected him and skipped or altered anything he needed us to. In the end, what we have done is built a trust relationship. He trusts us to care for him, just as he is, and allow him to mature. He has matured and can even sing hymns now with the word "blood" in them. he knows we repect his needs to grow. I think this trust is so critical to his embracing the Christian faith. We are the "little Christs" he sees a nd we represent God to him in many ways as he comes to know God better. I'm so glad God led us to this way of dealing with him on such a special and important issue. We have tried to urge him gently by explaining to him the importance of the blood of Christ (without actually using the word itself). Another thing to consider is that sensitivity is a wonderful trait that will serve her well as she ministers to others in the future. So many people lack this.
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mommyofgirls
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[quote="rjperez1"] Another thing to consider is that sensitivity is a wonderful trait that will serve her well as she ministers to others in the future. So many people lack this.[/quote
i agree
i agree
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ahngele and mommyofgirls,
It is good to know that I am not alone. I have been made fun of by friends and family for my sensitive nature. As you say that just bothers some people more than others.
Leah
It is good to know that I am not alone. I have been made fun of by friends and family for my sensitive nature. As you say that just bothers some people more than others.
Leah
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mommyofgirls
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gotpeace91 wrote:ahngele and mommyofgirls,
It is good to know that I am not alone. I have been made fun of by friends and family for my sensitive nature. As you say that just bothers some people more than others.
Leah
Amen. LOL
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dd1 - bringing me Brown Bear, Brown Bear What Do You See? and sitting in my lap
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dd3 - LHTH
dd1 - bringing me Brown Bear, Brown Bear What Do You See? and sitting in my lap
Re: How To Handle Heavy/Violent Content With A Young One
Candice,
I know some dc have more of a sensitivity towards content, and this is certainly something to ponder. You are such a loving mom, and while HOD weighs carefully the content for each age, only you know what will work for your dc and your family's needs. You've gotten some great advice and a lot to consider.
I can share my journey with this with you in the hopes that something here may help. I grew up in a church that only preached the love of God, which on the one hand was very nice, because I felt very loved! On the other hand, it made me come to expect that nothing bad would happen, and it left me puzzled (and somewhat scared) when it did. For me, it would have been better to have a balance of what God's love is like, and what sin is like. I have found I'm thankful for the talks my dc and I have had about hardship in books we've read, especially in the Bible - and especially in books that do so in such a way to show how character and morals were displayed or developed through that hardship (i.e. heroes in history, martyrs in the Bible, etc.).
We have talks about how sin is a part of our fallen world we live in, and how these things make me very sad too. When our dc hear things on the radio, or hear people talking about difficult hardships to understand, we already have in place a basis for talking about these things. This has been such a good thing for us.
On the other hand, we avoid books that go into incessant gory details for the purpose of exalting the sin - an example of this for dc would be the Goosebumps series by R.L. Stine, or for adults, books by Stephen King. This kind of heavy/violent content is very different than the kind in the Bible. At Jesus' crucifixion, the Bible did NOT go into minute details about the torture of Jesus, how precisely he was hung on the cross in horrific detail, nor did it give play by play descriptions of His slow death and His many hours hanging on the cross. Entire books of the Bible could have dwelled on the many horrific details of His actual death, but instead less than a handful of pages describe it.
However, the Bible DOES give enough information for us to know just how difficult it was for Him to die for us - imagine how our appreciation for His sacrifice for us would change if the Bible only told us He was arrested, gave up His spirit and died, and now He is in heaven. Eliminating the heavy/violent details greatly diminishes understanding of the true sacrifice given.
The history books in HOD are chosen for this same balance - honesty in sharing hardships people have gone through so we can better appreciate what followed, and discretion in not sharing too much as if to celebrate the act of violence. So, only you will know what is too much for your dd's sensitive nature, but this thread has some great things to consider as you think through this. You are a wonderful mother to give this such thought - just be in prayer, and the Lord will help you make the best decisions!
In Christ,
Julie
I know some dc have more of a sensitivity towards content, and this is certainly something to ponder. You are such a loving mom, and while HOD weighs carefully the content for each age, only you know what will work for your dc and your family's needs. You've gotten some great advice and a lot to consider.
I can share my journey with this with you in the hopes that something here may help. I grew up in a church that only preached the love of God, which on the one hand was very nice, because I felt very loved!
On the other hand, it made me come to expect that nothing bad would happen, and it left me puzzled (and somewhat scared) when it did. For me, it would have been better to have a balance of what God's love is like, and what sin is like. I have found I'm thankful for the talks my dc and I have had about hardship in books we've read, especially in the Bible - and especially in books that do so in such a way to show how character and morals were displayed or developed through that hardship (i.e. heroes in history, martyrs in the Bible, etc.). We have talks about how sin is a part of our fallen world we live in, and how these things make me very sad too. When our dc hear things on the radio, or hear people talking about difficult hardships to understand, we already have in place a basis for talking about these things. This has been such a good thing for us.
On the other hand, we avoid books that go into incessant gory details for the purpose of exalting the sin - an example of this for dc would be the Goosebumps series by R.L. Stine, or for adults, books by Stephen King. This kind of heavy/violent content is very different than the kind in the Bible. At Jesus' crucifixion, the Bible did NOT go into minute details about the torture of Jesus, how precisely he was hung on the cross in horrific detail, nor did it give play by play descriptions of His slow death and His many hours hanging on the cross. Entire books of the Bible could have dwelled on the many horrific details of His actual death, but instead less than a handful of pages describe it.
However, the Bible DOES give enough information for us to know just how difficult it was for Him to die for us - imagine how our appreciation for His sacrifice for us would change if the Bible only told us He was arrested, gave up His spirit and died, and now He is in heaven. Eliminating the heavy/violent details greatly diminishes understanding of the true sacrifice given.
The history books in HOD are chosen for this same balance - honesty in sharing hardships people have gone through so we can better appreciate what followed, and discretion in not sharing too much as if to celebrate the act of violence. So, only you will know what is too much for your dd's sensitive nature, but this thread has some great things to consider as you think through this. You are a wonderful mother to give this such thought - just be in prayer, and the Lord will help you make the best decisions!
In Christ,
Julie
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Currently using USI
Wife to Rich for 28 years
Mother to 3 sons, ages 23, 20, and 16
Sister to Carrie
Currently using USI
Wife to Rich for 28 years
Mother to 3 sons, ages 23, 20, and 16
Sister to Carrie
Re: How To Handle Heavy/Violent Content With A Young One
Julie,
Thank you so much for your wisdom and perspective on this issue, I appreciate it. I feel so thankful that I am able to gather all these wonderful nuggets of wisdom from everyone here!
It's interesting, before I read all of the responses here, I really had a narrow focus of how the material was to be presented and how it was being received by my daughter. I failed to look at a way to present the material to glorify Him and to take the opportunity to share how mighty God really is. I believe I was simply coming from a place of fear when confronted with teaching the material. I have learned that there is a balance that needs to be attained. I need to be able to share the sinful/violent content in order to really show and share an appreciation for the awesome things that God has done for us. I never really looked at it that way, fear can really cause you to put blinders on!
I feel like I have such a different perspective now, I feel like I have some "tools" that will equip me to share the stories in a purposeful way. I thank you for that!
Candice
Thank you so much for your wisdom and perspective on this issue, I appreciate it. I feel so thankful that I am able to gather all these wonderful nuggets of wisdom from everyone here!
It's interesting, before I read all of the responses here, I really had a narrow focus of how the material was to be presented and how it was being received by my daughter. I failed to look at a way to present the material to glorify Him and to take the opportunity to share how mighty God really is. I believe I was simply coming from a place of fear when confronted with teaching the material. I have learned that there is a balance that needs to be attained. I need to be able to share the sinful/violent content in order to really show and share an appreciation for the awesome things that God has done for us. I never really looked at it that way, fear can really cause you to put blinders on!
I feel like I have such a different perspective now, I feel like I have some "tools" that will equip me to share the stories in a purposeful way. I thank you for that!
Candice
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My daughter came across a video on Youtube yesterday that showed some images from "The Passion of the Christ" set to Phil Wykham's "Divine Romance" song. We were listening to some of my favorite songs on there and me not thinking that it was playing to scenes from the movie went about my business singing along. Mistake numero uno!!!! 
She must have seen the scene of Christ on the cross all bloody because she begged me to turn it off. I did immediately and felt awful that i didn't think. We were eating our meal and she just burst into tears shortly after that. I asked what was wrong and she just sobbed and sobbed and kept saying "Oh, Jesus.... oh Jesus." 
She was heartbroken over what had been done to Christ. I comforted her and prayed with her and asked her to forgive me for not paying attention to something that would upset her. But you know what, we had one of the BEST discussions about Christ's need to die for our sins. It took something horrible for her to see how awful our sins are. She has thought heaven and Jesus was all fluff and happiness because let's face it even the children's Bibles water down the crucifixion. She realized exactly what Christ went through (maybe not completely but enough) and I am ashamed to say that it moved her emotionally way more than the thought of Christ dying for my sins ever did to me. Oh to be that heartbroken that you literally can't eat but just weep over his death for us. She showed me such devotion to Jesus. That we could all be so affected in such a pure child like way.
I do not plan to put those kinds of things in her path but sometimes inadvertantly being exposed to it in your presence does allow for meaningful talk that might be missed otherwise. My goal has never been to shelter her but to give her a solid foundation rooted in truth. I believe God took something that was my mistake and used it to bring Him glory through my daughter. She has, however, requested I not play that video anymore. I will kindly oblige her.
She must have seen the scene of Christ on the cross all bloody because she begged me to turn it off. I did immediately and felt awful that i didn't think. We were eating our meal and she just burst into tears shortly after that. I asked what was wrong and she just sobbed and sobbed and kept saying "Oh, Jesus.... oh Jesus." She was heartbroken over what had been done to Christ. I comforted her and prayed with her and asked her to forgive me for not paying attention to something that would upset her. But you know what, we had one of the BEST discussions about Christ's need to die for our sins. It took something horrible for her to see how awful our sins are. She has thought heaven and Jesus was all fluff and happiness because let's face it even the children's Bibles water down the crucifixion. She realized exactly what Christ went through (maybe not completely but enough) and I am ashamed to say that it moved her emotionally way more than the thought of Christ dying for my sins ever did to me. Oh to be that heartbroken that you literally can't eat but just weep over his death for us. She showed me such devotion to Jesus. That we could all be so affected in such a pure child like way.
I do not plan to put those kinds of things in her path but sometimes inadvertantly being exposed to it in your presence does allow for meaningful talk that might be missed otherwise. My goal has never been to shelter her but to give her a solid foundation rooted in truth. I believe God took something that was my mistake and used it to bring Him glory through my daughter. She has, however, requested I not play that video anymore. I will kindly oblige her.
Jessi
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Wife to Brad for 10 years
Emma- 7 Beyond, DITHOR,
Logan- 4.5 LHTH, R & S workbooks
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www.modernmemoryfilms.com - our wedding videography site
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Wife to Brad for 10 years
Emma- 7 Beyond, DITHOR,
Logan- 4.5 LHTH, R & S workbooks
www.ourmodernmemories.blogspot.com - personal blog
www.modernmemoryfilms.com - our wedding videography site
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Jessi,
Thank you for sharing this.
What a fantastic example of facing/discussing something that initially seems so horrible, but in the end proved to provide the perfect opportunity for discussion, education and glorification for Him.
Again, I am thrilled, and much less fearful about sharing the truth with my daughter. I feel so prepared now, and really so thankful that all of you have opened my eyes.
Thank you so much! Love this Board and this group of ladies!
Candice
Thank you for sharing this.
What a fantastic example of facing/discussing something that initially seems so horrible, but in the end proved to provide the perfect opportunity for discussion, education and glorification for Him.
Again, I am thrilled, and much less fearful about sharing the truth with my daughter. I feel so prepared now, and really so thankful that all of you have opened my eyes.
Thank you so much! Love this Board and this group of ladies!
Candice