She had zero interest in anything school from day one. She’s been spirited since in-utero. I tell you this, because now I am battling all the damage I have done trying to find a curriculum “fit” for her. Yes, I am a curriculum junkie.
I've had K teachers telling me all “they“ do in their class. I constantly didn't measure up and neither did my dd. She wasn't "writing" to Santa in K or reading. I started with SL and felt like a looser because she didn't read at 4. So...I'd change and I'd push. And she pushed back. She has a summer birthday and because of her lack of interest, we are better late than early. She's 10 and did 4th grade work this year, except in Math & English, which is 3rd. And R&S 3rd is due to hopping. 
In my conquest to find the right fit, we have jumped from curriculum to curriculum. We’ve done Beyond up to Preparing, among other program tries in between. Prep. took us so long, that we just dropped it for something else. I was frustrated because we had co-op this year & really needed the 5th day to finish the days & we didn‘t have it. We were constantly behind. I was so stressed. But now we’re back finishing it up. But it still takes long.
She has no problem doing any of the work. The fit is right. She does well. She just goes slow. We do use alternate programs for Reading & Math & Spelling that add time, but she’s so slow!
CTC is the plan (and only plan) for next year, but I worry how far behind we’ll be if we just do it at our own pace as I know you all will very politely tell me it’s okay to do. Sounds good on paper, but still makes mom cringe at “being so far behind” with the better late than early and being behind in other stuff. Co-op is out next year. We’ll do mom and dd field trips instead.
I just need inspiration and to confess that I really screwed her up! Is this like the first step in CJA (curriculum junkies anonymous)?
I can imagine that spirited little gal growing up into one fine lady that knows just what she wants in life. Not all bad for the future - but enough to make a mom want to pull her hair out now! I truly do think CTC is academically absolutely 100% fine for 11 yo dc, including your dd. It is a very full program. I think you will find having your 5th day free with no coop is a blessing from what you've shared here. I am wondering what your thought is about why it's slow going though? I really do wish I could help with some ideas on that, though I do know that some habits die hard. Is it worth delving into what's causing the day to go long for dd, and what could be tried to fix that? I will try to help with that if it's an avenue you want to explore. Academically though - CTC will be enough. She is not behind. She is ahead by doing CTC at her age. Far ahead. I did my fair share of teaching in ps years ago, and what 11 yo are doing in CTC is leaps and bounds ahead of what we were having dc do in sixth grade in ps. The two are not even comparable. 
I SO WANT HIM TO LOVE TO LEARN, yet he doesn't. 
He is very intelligent as well, but behind for the same reasons you have mentioned.
The other, she loves to talk about the books she reads, but then it reminds her of another book she read and a movie, and...and.... I'm going to read that since I have the books. Guiding is my downfall.
I wanted to find something that worked for her learning "stye" too, and there is nothing wrong with that. Wanting the best for your child, wanting to find something to inspire them to grow and love learning is not a bad thing. However, consistency was lost. My dd has struggled with different things too, and I would search and try a little of this and a little of that trying find that "thing" that would work for her. One day I decided to stop all that and really consider the education I wanted my daughter to have. I wanted my daughter to develop a Biblical worldview. I wanted her to read lots of wonderful books. I knew, despite my own hesitation, that she retained well if we used hands-on stuff. I decided it was more important to find a program that came at a subject from many different ways and stick with it than to try all those different ways to see what worked best. HOD does all that and more. 
My poor dd was not very disciplined in her learning either. She could do workbook pages, but she wouldn't retain much. She could read well, but often couldn't answer the questions that followed with solid comprehension. Her spelling and math and writing were not progressing very quickly. With the exception of grammar, I slowly switched to 100% HOD over the last few months. R&S Grammar will begin next year as we finish up what we have been using. At one point, I sat my dd down and told her that, after prayer and discussion with her father, we both felt HOD was the best. We told her we expected her to do her best. We took the pressure off her as much as possible and just followed the program, one day at a time, one step at a time. Some days things took longer and we didn't get the full day accomplished. Other days we breezed through. She knows what is expected now, and I can't tell you how much she has progressed. I think the biggest progression has not been just in her academics, but in her attitude. Short lessons have been a miracle. She can take a break if she needs it. I've come to believe that, even if it takes awhile for her to get something or to accomplish something, she is still building her skill level. Now, with CtC next year, I feel confident that she will be able to handle the level. I also trust HOD to lead me in teaching my daughter and in presenting and building skills in my daughter to prepare her for higher grades.