Nipping nonsense in the bud and other ramblings
Nipping nonsense in the bud and other ramblings
We are having a few problems. Maybe you can shed some light....
First is problem with narration and mostly it's a lack of focus. This seems to be rather common among kids, but frustrating for me. She can comprehend, but it seems like she picks and chooses what she wants to comprehend. It's really frustrating! Plus she can get her bible verses memorized in 2-3 days, so it' doesn't make sense to me. She drifts and I try to catch her at it..... then starts saying something that has nothing to do with the subject at hand.
Second, when we ask questions at the end of Early Reader's Bible or any question, EVERY answer is so vague. It's "good" or "bad" or "doing good things". I entice her to say more, but maybe someone has something great to say that works that I'm not using.
And this is a big issue with us. Here's an example: We were doing an Assessment in our LLATL today and the question was: Tell me two words to describe a cat. Her first answer. "The cat is happy". My response was I don't want a sentence, just two words that describes a cat. Then I said we have a cat, Millie. Describe her. Then she says, "one, two". What the heck? But then I asked to to describe what she was wearing and she did. She said a sweater and a dress.
Example two: How do you begin a person's name? (no answer) I said, When you write, how do you begin a person's name? (answer: capital letter) her answer, "First name is Sara". WHAT THE HECK?
She can carry on a conversation like an adult, but sometimes you ask a question and you want to pull your hair out! I'm guessing this is from the lack of being in an atmosphere of question/answer sort of thing? You know, school? Anyone have this problem?
First is problem with narration and mostly it's a lack of focus. This seems to be rather common among kids, but frustrating for me. She can comprehend, but it seems like she picks and chooses what she wants to comprehend. It's really frustrating! Plus she can get her bible verses memorized in 2-3 days, so it' doesn't make sense to me. She drifts and I try to catch her at it..... then starts saying something that has nothing to do with the subject at hand.
Second, when we ask questions at the end of Early Reader's Bible or any question, EVERY answer is so vague. It's "good" or "bad" or "doing good things". I entice her to say more, but maybe someone has something great to say that works that I'm not using.
And this is a big issue with us. Here's an example: We were doing an Assessment in our LLATL today and the question was: Tell me two words to describe a cat. Her first answer. "The cat is happy". My response was I don't want a sentence, just two words that describes a cat. Then I said we have a cat, Millie. Describe her. Then she says, "one, two". What the heck? But then I asked to to describe what she was wearing and she did. She said a sweater and a dress.
Example two: How do you begin a person's name? (no answer) I said, When you write, how do you begin a person's name? (answer: capital letter) her answer, "First name is Sara". WHAT THE HECK?
She can carry on a conversation like an adult, but sometimes you ask a question and you want to pull your hair out! I'm guessing this is from the lack of being in an atmosphere of question/answer sort of thing? You know, school? Anyone have this problem?
Sounds a little like she's having trouble processing.....not totally understanding what you want from her maybe??? Have you tried giving her longer time to answer? Some kids are not very "automatic" with answers and need a LOT of time to process.
She may also be one of those kiddos that need lots of modeling, show her exactly what you want her to do.
I'm hoping some of the other moms who have kids with processing issues will pipe up here with what works for thier kiddos.
It could also be a maturity issue....although she is close to 8...and a girl...
I really have no idea! Ideas anyone????
She may also be one of those kiddos that need lots of modeling, show her exactly what you want her to do.
I'm hoping some of the other moms who have kids with processing issues will pipe up here with what works for thier kiddos.
It could also be a maturity issue....although she is close to 8...and a girl...
I really have no idea! Ideas anyone????
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Okay, I don't know if I'll have a whole lot of advice for you or not. My stepson is 9 yrs old and has a lot of trouble in the classroom. Every summer, I am working with him on his reading and math, otherwise they always want to hold him back a grade. He can be very, um, spacey sometimes, and yes, it drives me crazy. It's very important for me to remain as calm as possible (sometimes very hard) and just ask more questions. Like, if he answers "good" to an open-ended question, I ask why. And, what part, and what didn't you like and so on. Kinda gets him spooled up and he's talking about it after a while. It's hard, because I was always one of those people who just talked and talked, and he's not a talker.
Now, for the second part.....UGH!! My oldest son, who is 5 and very delayed with speech, often answers questions with "Yeh." Huh? I'll ask him, "What is your name?" and he'll answer "yeh." So then, I tell him, "Say Erik when I ask for your name." and he'll say, "Erik when I ask for name." It's funny but it's not. He's getting better as he gets older and I'm *so* thankful that my middle son doesn't answer like that. Erik, I think, has trouble processing things. He's so smart and can problem solve better than I can (there is no child safety lock that is smart enough for this kid!), but it's the whole direct question thing that gets to him!
Now, for the second part.....UGH!! My oldest son, who is 5 and very delayed with speech, often answers questions with "Yeh." Huh? I'll ask him, "What is your name?" and he'll answer "yeh." So then, I tell him, "Say Erik when I ask for your name." and he'll say, "Erik when I ask for name." It's funny but it's not. He's getting better as he gets older and I'm *so* thankful that my middle son doesn't answer like that. Erik, I think, has trouble processing things. He's so smart and can problem solve better than I can (there is no child safety lock that is smart enough for this kid!), but it's the whole direct question thing that gets to him!
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Hmm sounds like my kids when I pulled them out of public school. No real advice but just wanted to encourage you to stick with it. You will get results eventually and it is worth it. One thing I found that really helped with my kids was to model narration with them. Meaning I would read something and show them how to narrate. It is a skill that has to be learned. I think it takes time. Also realize the not having the skill yet does not mean they are ignoring you necessarily. Another thing to be sure of is that you are not dealing with a fear factor that they may feel that whatever they say may not be good enough. Mine actually had a fear that came from a bible study we tried to do with a neighbor kid. They felt "stupid" around him so they stopped answering questions on comprehension. They would answer the same thing "good" etc. even if that did not make sense. I finally got it out of them and was able to explain that the narration was not a test but a way to help them remember and it is supposed to be fun. Solved it all and eventually they got pretty good at it.
Having said all that my youngest is my best narrator. Sometimes I have to ask her to give the big kids a chance to answer.
Having said all that my youngest is my best narrator. Sometimes I have to ask her to give the big kids a chance to answer.
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okay - my son 8/2000 is doing Beyond and you have described him pretty well.
I frequently receive generic answers from him.
"Because God loves us," is perhaps his favorite, followed by, "God can do anything." Sadly, it fits just about 75% of the questions in italics in the book!
This is also a child who can watch a movie one time and can retell the entire 40 minutes to his grandmother the next time he sees her, but can't retell the key points in the eight pages of The Sarah Whitcher Story I just read him.
He sat around at the table for THREE HOURS one day in September when I told him he was not to leave until he could tell me three things - in any order - from the chapter I had read in Squanto. If he had said, "Squanto was a boy, he was an Indian and he had a friend," I would have been happy. I even then gave him the book to reread it.
My diagnosis. For us it is primarily about control but also has elements of committment and yes, laziness.
My son is ahead of the curve academically, in every area but Math. His ability is solid. He will spend hours each day doing creative writing, minding most grammar rules. He will type out pages of script for "plays" for he and his brother to act out. But when I ask him to write down two things that Tucker did to show brotherly love he will carry on for an hour. We even listened to that book on tape and he enjoyed the characters voices.
So - for us it is mostly about control. I always "win," but we are bothing "winning" more often now as he knows carrying on won't eliminate the work, just prolong it.
We go to CBS [Community Bible Study] and he gets a fantastic age-appropriate Bible study to do each week. It is what he starts his days with. And can get so ridiculous with it. If the answer isn't in black and white... if he has to actually stop and put some thought into it, he gets all bent out of shape. "I'm just dumb, Mom." Um, sorry, sympathy train has pulled away... think buddy!
The distraction factor exists in our house, too. His sibs are 5, 3, 1 and do so many "cool" things while he is doing his work. Thankfully we do the history, the science/activity/geography and the poetry when they are playing, so he does pay pretty good attention as he likes those.
Anyway - no real answers, just commisserating. I do not know how to spell that word.
I frequently receive generic answers from him.
"Because God loves us," is perhaps his favorite, followed by, "God can do anything." Sadly, it fits just about 75% of the questions in italics in the book!
This is also a child who can watch a movie one time and can retell the entire 40 minutes to his grandmother the next time he sees her, but can't retell the key points in the eight pages of The Sarah Whitcher Story I just read him.
He sat around at the table for THREE HOURS one day in September when I told him he was not to leave until he could tell me three things - in any order - from the chapter I had read in Squanto. If he had said, "Squanto was a boy, he was an Indian and he had a friend," I would have been happy. I even then gave him the book to reread it.
My diagnosis. For us it is primarily about control but also has elements of committment and yes, laziness.
My son is ahead of the curve academically, in every area but Math. His ability is solid. He will spend hours each day doing creative writing, minding most grammar rules. He will type out pages of script for "plays" for he and his brother to act out. But when I ask him to write down two things that Tucker did to show brotherly love he will carry on for an hour. We even listened to that book on tape and he enjoyed the characters voices.
So - for us it is mostly about control. I always "win," but we are bothing "winning" more often now as he knows carrying on won't eliminate the work, just prolong it.
We go to CBS [Community Bible Study] and he gets a fantastic age-appropriate Bible study to do each week. It is what he starts his days with. And can get so ridiculous with it. If the answer isn't in black and white... if he has to actually stop and put some thought into it, he gets all bent out of shape. "I'm just dumb, Mom." Um, sorry, sympathy train has pulled away... think buddy!
The distraction factor exists in our house, too. His sibs are 5, 3, 1 and do so many "cool" things while he is doing his work. Thankfully we do the history, the science/activity/geography and the poetry when they are playing, so he does pay pretty good attention as he likes those.
Anyway - no real answers, just commisserating. I do not know how to spell that word.
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Wow, David (my stepson) can recall movies really well, also! Since he was a little kid, he's been able to sit and watch a full movie, and then retell it with so many details, it was amazing to me! This from the child who has been diagnosed as ADD because of his performance in the classroom. I know I did not write the OP, but I'm enjoying the responses, also!
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It is amazing how they can tell us every tid-bit of detail when it DOESN'T pertain to school subjects. That's how I KNOW she doesn't have processing issues. I'm guessing the weirdo answers to questions come from lack of being in that type of conversational environment. Although you could fool me when we have company.
Annaz,
Here are my suggestions based on my many years as a classroom teacher and now as a homeschool teacher and mom. You may do these things already.
1. Check for understanding. If your daughter understands what is expected of her, she should be able to restate the question back to you. If she cannot, you can restate the question in different ways until she does figure it out. I try to allow students to be successful, so I will try to give them just the amount of information they need to answer correctly. I will lead them to the right answer as much as needed.
2. Modeling is powerful! Narration in particular is a complex activity. You may need to narrate for her several times. Also, you might "share narrate" where you say a few things that might jog her memory to say more.
3. Let her be the teacher. I have found it very effective at times to allow the student to be the teacher. Let her ask the questions. You can give the answers. You may combine this with modeling. After you narrate, allow your daughter to critique your narration. She can tell you what you have missed. Sometimes you may intentionally miss a part of the narration.
4. Start small. When I began narration with my children, I started with just a few sentences. I wanted them to understand the process and to be successful. I have found that when their narrations become less complete or "sloppy", the best cure is to shorten the amount to narrate for a while until the skill level rises again.
4. Allow "Wait Time." It takes more time than you think to process, especially if you are nervous or unsure of yourself. If I feel "on the spot" it sometimes takes me a few seconds to remember simple things like my telephone number! In a classroom situation I try to wait at least ten "slow" seconds for the child to answer. This is TOUGH! Wait time is one of the most difficult things for me to remember when teaching.
I hope this helps. It is difficult to give suggestions via email. I certainly don't know it all! These are just things that have helped me over the years.
Callia
Here are my suggestions based on my many years as a classroom teacher and now as a homeschool teacher and mom. You may do these things already.
1. Check for understanding. If your daughter understands what is expected of her, she should be able to restate the question back to you. If she cannot, you can restate the question in different ways until she does figure it out. I try to allow students to be successful, so I will try to give them just the amount of information they need to answer correctly. I will lead them to the right answer as much as needed.
2. Modeling is powerful! Narration in particular is a complex activity. You may need to narrate for her several times. Also, you might "share narrate" where you say a few things that might jog her memory to say more.
3. Let her be the teacher. I have found it very effective at times to allow the student to be the teacher. Let her ask the questions. You can give the answers. You may combine this with modeling. After you narrate, allow your daughter to critique your narration. She can tell you what you have missed. Sometimes you may intentionally miss a part of the narration.
4. Start small. When I began narration with my children, I started with just a few sentences. I wanted them to understand the process and to be successful. I have found that when their narrations become less complete or "sloppy", the best cure is to shorten the amount to narrate for a while until the skill level rises again.
4. Allow "Wait Time." It takes more time than you think to process, especially if you are nervous or unsure of yourself. If I feel "on the spot" it sometimes takes me a few seconds to remember simple things like my telephone number! In a classroom situation I try to wait at least ten "slow" seconds for the child to answer. This is TOUGH! Wait time is one of the most difficult things for me to remember when teaching.
I hope this helps. It is difficult to give suggestions via email. I certainly don't know it all! These are just things that have helped me over the years.
Callia
Ann this popped into my head while I was taking Steven to karate. Sometimes with Steven it takes him the next day to be able to narrate. So I read to him the key idea ask him some questions and if I get the goovy responses I'll retell or reread the part that has the answer in it. Then the next day when we pull out the read aloud or history I'll ask him so what's going on in the story or what did you learn about yesterday? If he can't remember I'll say remember it was something about Moses. Maybe that will help you. I get much better responses the next day. Its almost like Mom why are you asking me these questions you just read this to me. Don't you remember yourself.
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While it may take a while for some children to process [like the next day] I can tell you for my son that isn't his problem. He can read a for-fun-book and tell me word for word, or he can watch a movie. And I really do mean word for word. Verbatim. When I ask him the questions from Carrie's questions for the emerging readers, he will use the same adjectives, etc., as the authors did in describing what happened when Will and Orv took out their plane, for example.
But when it comes to the school work, for my son, I believe it is he hasn't learned the importance of placing importance on things he doesn't think are important. Make sense?
Only if it is interesting to HIM does it deserve all his attention. So for us a large part of it is laziness. And it has been improving. But about one day a week, he will start it up. One of my dear homeschooling friends actually thinks he knows my "buttons." Because nothing pushes my buttons like him failing to know something that we have worked on. Like when he struggles with math, it is a genuine struggle and it evokes compassion in me and a desire to help. When he can't answer X, Y, or Z because he didn't care enough to listen, I get hot under the collar. She proposes that he knows that! BECAUSE when I read Stories of the Pilgrims, that kid can remember EVERYTHING. When he wants a privilege he can remember everything. When we have a busy day before us and we have got to get school done by 11 to do X, Y, or Z and he sits there and says, "I just don't know, Mom. I am just dumb I guess." I want to send him on the next bus going by. And he just might know it.
But when it comes to the school work, for my son, I believe it is he hasn't learned the importance of placing importance on things he doesn't think are important. Make sense?
Only if it is interesting to HIM does it deserve all his attention. So for us a large part of it is laziness. And it has been improving. But about one day a week, he will start it up. One of my dear homeschooling friends actually thinks he knows my "buttons." Because nothing pushes my buttons like him failing to know something that we have worked on. Like when he struggles with math, it is a genuine struggle and it evokes compassion in me and a desire to help. When he can't answer X, Y, or Z because he didn't care enough to listen, I get hot under the collar. She proposes that he knows that! BECAUSE when I read Stories of the Pilgrims, that kid can remember EVERYTHING. When he wants a privilege he can remember everything. When we have a busy day before us and we have got to get school done by 11 to do X, Y, or Z and he sits there and says, "I just don't know, Mom. I am just dumb I guess." I want to send him on the next bus going by. And he just might know it.
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DS 17 -gr.12 full time college student
DS 15- gr. 10 favorites from World Geo and World Hx.
DD 13- gr. 8 Rev to Rev
DD 11- gr. 6 CTC
DD 7 - gr. 2 Beyond
DD 4 - pre-K Rod & Staff and Phonics Pathways
For the record, this is my no means my area of expertise, just something I have learned through the 5 years that I have been homeschooling. I wanted to point out something that I did not see mentioned in any of the other posts.
Some children are more visual learners than audio. (I know I am a visual learner) I think it is easier for a child to tell you about something he has seen, than he has heard or even read, which is why most children can easily tell you about a movie they have seen than a book which they have heard or read.....especially in today's world where they are constantly being visually stimulated.
I know I had a similar problem with one of my children. My oldest used to tell me almost verbatim about a story that I read to her, instead of a just a few key things about the story...I needed to teach her to shorten it. My other daughter, I would read the story to and if she didnt have a picture to help her, would look at me with a blank response until I asked her some questions about it, and even then they were short and vague. (She is the one that I had a difficult time with in a phonics program that used pictures because they would distract her from the actual words on the page.)
As mentioned before, I would example narration to her and then just keep practicing. Try to make sure there are as few distractions around as well.
Just my .02
Kay in PA
Some children are more visual learners than audio. (I know I am a visual learner) I think it is easier for a child to tell you about something he has seen, than he has heard or even read, which is why most children can easily tell you about a movie they have seen than a book which they have heard or read.....especially in today's world where they are constantly being visually stimulated.
I know I had a similar problem with one of my children. My oldest used to tell me almost verbatim about a story that I read to her, instead of a just a few key things about the story...I needed to teach her to shorten it. My other daughter, I would read the story to and if she didnt have a picture to help her, would look at me with a blank response until I asked her some questions about it, and even then they were short and vague. (She is the one that I had a difficult time with in a phonics program that used pictures because they would distract her from the actual words on the page.)
As mentioned before, I would example narration to her and then just keep practicing. Try to make sure there are as few distractions around as well.
Just my .02
Kay in PA
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The ladies on the board are giving such wonderful advice! They are saying exactly the same things I would say to your questions. So, I'll just pop in and agree that the visual vs. auditory thing is HUGE in some children's ability to comprehend what you're asking them to do.
So, as visual kiddos are able to read more and more of their own school books, they often seem to comprehend better (purely from seeing what they're reading). I know I am that way. It also helps them focus better once they are able to see and follow along with all parts of their school.
Also, with narrating, reading a shorter portion and then asking for a narration works well too. So, in essence you're reading a page and then mini-narrating, then read, then mini-narrate. You get the idea.
As far as the questions go with the Early Readers' Bible, after a mediocre answer, it would help to show her the sentences in the Bible that answer the questions, read them aloud to her as you run your finger under them, showing her how to look (and see) the answers if she's not sure of them.
Last, as far as the LLATL, when you ask a question, write her answer on a markerboard so she can see it. Then, ask for another suggestion and write it down. If she's not getting it, write down for her what a "good answer" looks like and read it to her. She will start to see what you're looking for then!
Visual learners can be daydreamers when someone is not engaging them visually. So, try to make sure she SEES each subject area somehow as you do it!
Blessings,
Carrie
So, as visual kiddos are able to read more and more of their own school books, they often seem to comprehend better (purely from seeing what they're reading). I know I am that way. It also helps them focus better once they are able to see and follow along with all parts of their school.
Also, with narrating, reading a shorter portion and then asking for a narration works well too. So, in essence you're reading a page and then mini-narrating, then read, then mini-narrate. You get the idea.
As far as the questions go with the Early Readers' Bible, after a mediocre answer, it would help to show her the sentences in the Bible that answer the questions, read them aloud to her as you run your finger under them, showing her how to look (and see) the answers if she's not sure of them.
Last, as far as the LLATL, when you ask a question, write her answer on a markerboard so she can see it. Then, ask for another suggestion and write it down. If she's not getting it, write down for her what a "good answer" looks like and read it to her. She will start to see what you're looking for then!
Visual learners can be daydreamers when someone is not engaging them visually. So, try to make sure she SEES each subject area somehow as you do it!
Blessings,
Carrie
oi! you just decribed my child.
This is how I handle it. I have been struggling with this issue since she was 5. I'm finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel
My dd has auditory processing issues. and will daydream while I am reading. doing short narrations helped but did not completely solve the problem. I tested it and found 2-3 sentences into a paragraph and she was off in la la land.
So I started touching her (I got this out of a child rearing book) I read a sentence or 2 touch her on her shoulder or pat her hand, or touch her cheek, very lightly and very gently. Its is amazing the difference. I have been slowly lengthening the amount of time reading between mini narrations. I can almost read the whole thing without stopping now.
also I have discovered when my kid stats talking about something else totally off topic. That I ask her how it relates. To my surprise she has made a leap in her head she failed to verblize. And so I say "good that is relating the reading to your own experiance. Now what else do you remember from the book."
I also let her play teacher as well. during her reading time I tell her she is the teacher. And I narrate back to her what she reads to me. She loves that and it models... I some times also model her behavior .. er um.. I was daydreaming can you read it to me again... She does not like it when i pull that stunt on her. I only make her go back and re read 1 or 2 pages but it does show her its not that much fun to be the teacher when your student doesn't listen! but I'm a crazy Mommie
This is how I handle it. I have been struggling with this issue since she was 5. I'm finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel
My dd has auditory processing issues. and will daydream while I am reading. doing short narrations helped but did not completely solve the problem. I tested it and found 2-3 sentences into a paragraph and she was off in la la land.
So I started touching her (I got this out of a child rearing book) I read a sentence or 2 touch her on her shoulder or pat her hand, or touch her cheek, very lightly and very gently. Its is amazing the difference. I have been slowly lengthening the amount of time reading between mini narrations. I can almost read the whole thing without stopping now.
also I have discovered when my kid stats talking about something else totally off topic. That I ask her how it relates. To my surprise she has made a leap in her head she failed to verblize. And so I say "good that is relating the reading to your own experiance. Now what else do you remember from the book."
I also let her play teacher as well. during her reading time I tell her she is the teacher. And I narrate back to her what she reads to me. She loves that and it models... I some times also model her behavior .. er um.. I was daydreaming can you read it to me again... She does not like it when i pull that stunt on her. I only make her go back and re read 1 or 2 pages but it does show her its not that much fun to be the teacher when your student doesn't listen! but I'm a crazy Mommie
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I agree with what the other posters have mentioned, so I won't repeat that. I do have a small, practical tip that may help. I depends on what motivates your daughter. If she gives you a generic, ho-hum response, I might say to her, "That really was a one-star answer. I bet you could think harder and give me two-star answer." At another point in time if she gives a really great answer, you could say, "Wow, that was a super three-star answer!" In this way you are critiquing her answers (and she knows it), but it's gentle and encouraging.
Just a thought,
Laura
Just a thought,
Laura