Still finding my groove

[WigglesMom]

I am still trying to find my groove with schooling all 4 kids over the summer. My dd8 actually placed in PHFHG but I went with BHFHG for economic and practical reasons. She is coming out of public school. The thing is that BHFHG is a lot different from ps also. The notebooking, mapping, experiments are more than she is used to doing. She is quite capable of doing all of BHFHG, but she is requiring way more hand holding than I thought she would need.
Our biggest fight is over cursive writing. She can write cursive and has a lovely hand; but, since all they required them to write in cursive for was spelling tests in order to give them a handwriting grade, she doesn't seem to be able to write cursive in length without complaining. I had bought a cursive workbook for her before the school sent home her handwriting books from the year. She completed the Zaner Bloser transition book and cursive for grade 3 in public school 3rd grade. I feel she is more than ready to write in cursive.
Should I keep battling over cursive or just give in for the time being and have her do another cursive workbook that I don't feel she needs? We started out BHFHG doing the extensions as well, but I am leaning to dropping the extensions for now. She seems to feel that just the basic BHFHG is a lot. PS has a lot of hand holding to the extent that their history and science study guides are went over in class and they are given the answer word for word to study for the test word for word. She really hasn't had a lot of opportunity to think through learning. She has learned to memorize what they tell her to memorize and she makes excellent grades that way. BHFHG doesn't work that way and I think it worries her that there isn't a number grade defining how she does.
She can definitely do the work. She tested mastery on her I-Leap this year in science, social studies, math, and reading and was way above state and national percentages. I want her to enjoy home school, but so far she is just envious of how easy her siblings work is and how fun it looks. I let her do some of their projects too like the egyptian collar.
She is in 4th grade and can do BHFHG with extensions, but should I step back and not make it about what she can do but what she needs to do. Should I drop the extensions even though I think she needs them to be on 4th grade level? Or should I just keep plugging along and with time maybe she will come around to enjoying school and not worry about what her younger siblings are doing?
I really want her to enjoy being home and doing school at home, but not to the extent that I make it all about what will make her happiest.
Val

[amysconfections]

Try to think long term goals. Do you want her to have really great cursive handwriting or print? If you do want cursive than slowly require more and more to be in cursive. Let her do fun school with the younger ones but then she still has to do her school. Handwriting is a battle we have too. My oldest hates to write. But, he does much better with it if he does it during his alone time in his room. That way he doesn't feel he's missing out on something else. From what i've seen the extensions are just extra reading. I would keep them and maybe do them on the weekends. If it's not a battle worth fighting save them for next year. I hope this helps.