I never used Abeka, so I can't speak to that. However, I did use RME with my dd learning to read and it was great. I started her at lesson 9 because we had already learned the letter sounds, and she just needed to review the short words before getting into reading larger words and learning blends, etc. I thought it was easy to use, built her confidence because she started reading words fairly quickly, and I really loved the way sounds are taught in the manual. Others here have used other programs that they've loved, so you'll probably get some suggestions there too, but for us RME was a great fit. I am using it with ds 5 and he likes it too so far..we haven't gotten very far yet, so I can't tell if it 'fits' him yet, but I think it will.
