Thanks for sharing what page you are on, as that helps so much!
Textbook 3A p. 64 along with Workbook p. 79 is the very first introduction to long division. At this point, long division is meant to be an introductory skill. Generally, math skills fall into one of three categories... introduction, practice, mastery. Long division in 3A at this point is in the introduction phase. It comes around again several times in the coming pages of 3A, and then again around near the middle of 3B. Those pages provide good practice of long division. I feel the skill really isn't meant to be truly mastered until 4A/4B.
I am on my second time through these levels (my oldest is completing 6B, and my middle ds is in nearing the end of 3B. Singapore's method of introducing a skill, practicing it a little, going away from it for awhile, coming back to it and practicing it a little, and then reviewing the concept the next year for more practice is purposeful and very effective. I remember being concerned with my first ds when doing long division. He needed help with every step of it with every problem, and generally, he is good at math and quite quick to catch on. I decided just to help him with each problem, talking through them out loud as we worked through them together on a marker board, and then move on. It worked great! Each time he came back to long division after a break, he needed less reminding of the process. Now, he is great at long division. I see the same thing happening with my middle ds. At the introduction in 3A, he was pretty lost. We worked through the process together on a markerboard for each problem. At the practice phase in 3A and mid-3B, he needed ample reminders and practice with the practice. Now that he is nearing the end of 3B, he is starting to be able to do long division without so many reminders of the process. Usually, if I work through a few with him, he can do the rest successfully.
So, I'd view your ds as being in the introduction phase right now, heading for the practice phase. I'd pull out the markerboard and talk through the process out loud, working it on your markerboard as you go, partnering with him on this right now. They need to see the process over and over again for it to stick. I taught 3rd and 4th grade over the course of 7 years in ps before homeschooling, and this is super normal for dc to need lots of help with long division.
To avoid frustration, I'd set the timer for 30 to 40 minutes, and fully work through problems together, stopping when the timer rings, and picking it up there the next day. You will begin to see progress, but remember, this is a skill to practice off and on as it comes up in the plans other times throughout the year. It is important to give a rest to working on this skill when it does in the plans. It helps dc to move to a different skill they do better with, and then come back to the harder skill later.
Here is an example of how to talk through problem #2f on Workbook p. 79, saying the bolded parts out loud, and doing the unbolded things on your markerboard...
Let's see how many 9's are in 452 by dividing. Write the problem on your markerboard in black marker.
Can 9 go into 4? (Underline the 4 on your markerboard).
Well, no there are no 9's in 4. 4 is too small.
Hmmm. Well, can 9 go into 45? (Underline the 5 so 45 is underlined now on markerboard).
Yes, it can, but how many 9's are in 45? Pause to see if he can begin to figure this out. If not, say,
Hmmm. Well, we could try counting by 9's until we get as close to 45 as we can without going over? Then, encourage him to count by 9's out loud, keeping track of how many 9's he counts by holding up a finger for each or jotting a tally on the markerboard for each as he goes, and helping him if he gets stuck. When he gets to 45, say,
Well, that's as close as we can get, right?!? How many 9's did it take then? So, we need to write 5 above 45 to show there were five 9's in 45. Then, we put 45 under 45 and subtract to see how many are left. Well, that's easy, 0 are left! Write on markerboard as you talk through it.
Now, are we done? No, we still have this 2 left. We need to bring it down. I usually make an arrow and bring down the 2.
Now, we have to ask ourselves, how many 9's are there in 2? Oh, none? Well, you are right. So we need to put 0 above the 2 to show that. Now, how many do we have left over that cannot be in a group of 9? That's right, 2. We write that by writing R 2. I write that on the markerboard.
Pretty simple, but it works! Just keep working through the problems together like this, and trust me, it will stick. But keep moving on in the plans, going away from the skill, coming back to it later, going away from it again, and then coming back again to it later, is an incredible effective way to teach this difficult skill. HTH!
In Christ,
Julie