Thank you for this post! I have been thinking of getting my sons a planner and having them write down their assignments each day in it themselves. What I have been doing this year is writing all of their list of assignments on a small white board that is on the wall. Then as they do the assignments, they mark them off the board. It is actually working very well for them to do it this way. (I don't write page numbers, etc, I just say "Math, Math Sheet, LA, etc" But I would also like a planner for each of them to have so they could transfer their "list" to the planner and have an actual record of what they are doing daily.
As far as setting goals, I have mixed feelings about it. I know that it can be good to set these kinds of goals, yet it seems like the more pressure I put on myself and my children, the harder I am on myself and my children! Do you know what I mean? And then, if and when those goals don't happen, I feel like a failure. So, while I do believe that I need to add some general goals to my sons' and daughter's lives, I don't want to get to caught up in goal setting myself. It isn't that it's bad, but for a perfectionist or Type A personality, it can be blessing OR a curse!

Even trying to set "realistic goals" in my mind, may not truly be realistic for my children. Hmmmm...
As far as the independent-led student issue, I have begun having my sons do their history and science readings and assignments on their own, and I think they are thriving with it (in Bigger). But, I really MISS the readings actually! I am going to miss out on the learning myself. That's the only drawback I have seen so far. I plan to continue doing their Bible lesson and the storytime with them though, along with the hymn and poem reading. I make copies of the TManual pages each week and put in a binder with the boxes highlighted that I want them to do for that day. I keep it in one spot so they can look at it when they need it and I am not always losing my TM!

Plus I don't want to highlight my TM that way, since I plan to use it again some day with my daughter. Blessings!