Tracee wrote:The best advice that I've been given, is to sit with him and help him with whatever it is he needs help with. It's amazing how this works. I think kids naturally want to be independent. When they completely understand and feel confident in what they are doing, they will tell you to go away and that they can do it on their own. Until that point, I just keep helping and explaining. I've seen this happen on several occasions. My ds hates to read, so I was told to tell him that I would read the words, sentences, pages, etc. first and then he could read or we would take turns reading. Whenever I do this and ds is confident in what he is doing, he will tell me, "I can read this by myself". This method takes the constant struggle out it and makes for a better learning environment. Whatever curriculum you choose, I would just keep helping her as much as she needs. She will eventually get it.
I took your advice Tracee, and it has revealed much. She stills balks at math initially, but I tell her not to worry and that I will be right with her every step of the way. In doing this, I have noticed she can add quicker and with more accuracy than either of us realized. When she is so worried about getting the right answer, she just can't access that information in her brain.
I am taking this same approach in reading also. For example, I do a paragraph then she does paragraph, next thing you know she accidentally has read two extra and didn't even realize it. I had planned to finish the reading program we are currently doing, but she saw the emergent readers collection and wants to read them. So I will let her lead the way.
Mercy wrote:Just wanted to encourage you not to give up! Sometimes it is just maturity that helps things to click! By the way, he will not get any better tutoring/tailoring better than at home. At ps he will be lost and trying to keep up with their standards...Mercy
Mercy, thank you for the encouragement. I have heard often maturity kicking in around 12/13, but sometimes I get so stuck in the moment, I forget the bigger picture. With love from home, she will achieve more, I just need to be patient. She has already told her father she does not want to go to ps, so she can continue to learn at her pace. This too has helped relax our pace since we have no deadline to meet.