yayadaisy wrote: I should mention he has high functioning autism and each kid is different no two are the same each makes it harder for me in research because not one method will work for all kids with autism.
Take a deep breath!

Just as a mom with a special needs child that took on the ps system and I mean literally my picture is probably still a dart board in the teachers lounge, I have found that my daughters needs are best met at home. In general what you have said really says it all. With 8 plus kids to deal with they do not have the time to decipher how your child learns best in the ps setting.

Now if your child needs OT and Speech go for it. Private care is the best you will get and your insurance covers it. In ps what we found is either your child is mainstreamed with help now and then having the special ed teacher in the classes and there are not enough of them to have it work this way or they are stuck in a class with 8 other special needs children all with different needs. They do not have the resources or the time to customize something for your child's specific needs. I really want to encourage you that if you can get to the emotional state where you can be confident that God gave you the children He meant to when He called you to homeschool and so therefore He will equip you and carry you through, then proceed as planned. The only difference is now you have knowledge that can help. Beyond that it is a lot of trial and error with core subjects where they stumble like math and LA, prayer, and determination.

One day you will look back and see that you have progressed and I promise you short of being completely irresponsible it will be much farther than they ever could in ps. If your child were not high functioning then perhaps a special ed school would be best but if we are talking a kid that will be placed in ps and receive special ed on the side then it is my belief that almost always with a called to hs parent who is willing to pray and try to find what works they are going to do better.
Just let me share that I started out with two toddlers and two babies that all grew to be preschool, K and 1st grade level, one of which has Cerebral Palsy. I was hsing them and my dd with special needs was learning. But people were criticizing and so I gave in and sent them to ps. I won't go into the long story but the bottom line is by the end of second grade my dd with CP still did not read. I did everything they told me to do at home and even asked for more. Eventually there were some issues, huge issues and I pulled my daughter out for a month as a protest while I fought for her but having no intention of hsing just wanting to fix what was wrong. Meanwhile I threw away everything the special ed teacher said and knowing nothing at all I tried to teach her to read. Within a month she was actually reading like she never had, not anything complicated but still more than she ever had. Don't be fooled to think they can do better than you and don't believe that you need a degree to teach your kids nor a special ed degree to teach a special needs kid. I know absolutely nothing formal about teaching a child with special needs all I know is my child and how to pray. You can do it too!
Anyway that is my BTDT pep talk. Hope it is OK I am so straight forward on this.

It is one of my passion buttons because I know how easily it is to be led off God's call by people who tell you that you can't or should not. Don't listen to them and don't doubt yourself or what God can do through you.

When you find OT and Speech people and I would think you also might get PT as well interview them and make sure that they know you hs and they need to be supportive of that. As far as HOD goes go at the pace you think is best require of him what challenges but does not frustrate and focus heavy on whatever his issues are as far as learning delays or focus issues. Make sure he gets the core things writing, reading and math and HOD is your ace in the hole to cover the rest. Just let him enjoy that. As far as giving your kids enough attention subtract 9 hours from your day you have now to that add about 2-3 hours of homework because with a special needs kid and six in general it will be that eventually and then ask yourself what kind of quality time you spend and attention you can give your child then add to that the frustration of having no idea what was taught in school and what they are wanting from the dittos they send home and see what quality time you have left. If you feel in your heart that hsing is the way to go that is your call from God. Don't let fear stop you! Rest in Him! The One Who calls is also faithful to equip.
Hope this helps and does not further stress you out. That is not my intent. Just want to encourage you!
