annaz wrote:Take this for what it's worth, because I am a non-conformer. It is difficult, because I'm surrounded by the public school mindset even though most of the people I know homeschool (albeit through co-ops.)  I try very hard  not to be driven by doing something for money or lack thereof, nor the world's ways, but it is excrutiatingly frustrating to be around this mindset that has infiltrated homeschooling.  I feel like HOME school has been lost as all I hear is "where are the co-ops" or how to take the SAT twice a year for 4 years to master it to get to college. What a racquet!  Let me ask, have we all lost our minds? Did we lose our vision; do we have a vision? I know some aren't called to homeschool, therefore they do it as they feel like it or when it gets tough they throw in the towel.  I also realize that it's not an option for some, so don't throw tomatoes at me.    I get that there are many who wish to go to college to further their education. I get that they need to test in.  But I also get that no one ever seems to realize that there are other possibilities in life. That when did college become the next step, the have-to?  And if we actually train and educate our children properly, do we need to play the game?  
I am in no way bashing college.  But in my opinion, the entire purpose has been lost.   
I will be enjoying our last few high school years, doing high school material, and life prep.  But I refuse to spend it whirling around like the crazy people I know, simply reinventing the public school mindset by adding in college classes to save a dime or time, or to hurry up this precious process of which I can never get back.
Annaz, I LOVE your post!  Thank you for sharing your heart!
I have been so sad to see several of the homeschool parents in my homeschool group so thrilled to stop homeschooling after 10th grade and put their children in an all-day local college program which completes their last two years of high school in two semesters and counts as college credit.  I just don't understand the need.  From my perspective, children of that age still desperately need the guidance of their parents as they form their worldview and as they mature, not to mention there's no way I would want to lose the last two years of my children's homeschool education.  I'm possessive of that time! 

  I want the deep conversations with them.  I want the learning alongside them and being intricately involved in what they are learning. I want the fun times and the peaceful pace of staying at home.  I want the day to day living life as a close family.  I want to keep their hearts and not lose them to the world.  
I do not want to launch my dear children until they are older and more grounded.  In my opinion, at 16, they are still being established and are not yet prepared for the daily bombardment of everything that counters what we have instilled in them at home.  (Well, to be honest, we don't want our children going to the local community college at all.  Right now we're investigating several options, such as how Carrie is using College Plus from home.)
I guess I am feeling so strongly about these things because I'm watching the young students from my homeschool group be overwhelmed with so many worldly influences as they are away from home all day long, in a secular college setting.  I happened to run across the twitter account of one of these students and was appalled at how they have changed.  This particular student, who was just on a missions trip a few years ago, is now posting twitters that have foul language (including the F-word) and talk of "Should I get up and go to school today or should I kill myself?"  Yet, when I talk with her mother, she raves about the high school/college program, saying how great it is and how her daughter is getting all A's.  
 
On the other hand, I have a dear friend whose daughter is entering her last year of homeschooling.  She has decided not to go to college when she is done, but to work in several businesses she has established (ex. dog sitting, lawn care, etc.), while she works on pursuing certifications in areas that interest her.  She'll be living at home, under her parents protection, will be able to save a lot of money, and have more time to decide what she wants to do with her life.
I am not anti-college.  My husband and I have both have master's degrees and my husband is a college professor.  I fully expect my son (and likely my daughter) to get a college degree.  I just agree with you that college shouldn't be looked upon as the only possibility after high school (or before!).